The Atmosphere For Sex

It was a cold evening. ASUU strike was on, PHCN ensured that everywhere was dark and the atmosphere was silent, except for the momentary whispers of the two of us.

She stared into my eyes and I responded the gesture. We laid on our backs staring at each other, while awaiting our next course of actions. My hormones were surging, neurones were firing and the dragon was ready to unleash. All seemed set, only awaiting my orders.

There are several approaches, reactions and counter reactions, spiced with diverse suggestions on ways to guard against sex outside marriage. While several are interlaced and heavily laden with the Scriptures, very few focus on the real issue.

Having sex is not something extraordinary that warrants the attention and the have-sex-and-die response we give it. In the real sense, it is one of the numerous actions we take daily. They are similar in that we choose what we do, how we do it, with whom, where and when.

While it is safe and predictable to invoke scriptural verses to drive home our premarital sex- related topics, we fail to recognize the fact that some base their choices on other determining factors apart from religion.

Some depend on peers, some parents, some pressures and others intuition. Solution attempts coming from the religious points of view are therefore not far reaching in efficacy. But there is one approach that I'll like to propose and that's our desires.

Desires, in my own interpretation, are dreams that we want to live. We all have one thing or another that we want to achieve in life. Some wants to be rich, powerful, and influential. To some, their dream is majorly centered on being an achiever, a force to reckon with and a decision decider in the nearest future. Following dreams, comes the next stage, that of planning.

While planning, we trace the steps that will lead us to the preferred and desired destinations. While some are truthful to themselves, others live in their self built fool's paradise.

While familiarizing ourselves with the routes to take, we also must identify factors that wills hinder us or prolong our journeys. Outcomes of prolific sex is one of such.

Authoritatively, I can say that advances in medical research have not been able to declare premarital sex as 100% safe. 75% at best. The dangers associated with the remaining 25% is strong enough to destroy any dream, leaving such at the dream stage. They include unwanted pregnancies, HIV/AIDS, several STDs, magun (don't climb), and psychological wandering.While some are serious at actualizing their dreams, others can trade theirs' with other ephemeral things.

The decision to stir clear of illegal sex is not that of God to make neither is it that of parents, or peers, the sexy girl or handsome guy to decide. It is entirely ours.

Back to my story, I looked at the girl in the eye and asked her what she wants her future to be. She told me and I replied by telling her that the next 15 minutes can shatter such dreams.

We made our choices and the body systems obeyed. Our hormones went back to normal. The neurones got calm and the dragon stayed in the leash, all hoping to act at the right time.